Harry Potter

My mother started reading Harry Potter to me when I was in second grade. It lasted approximately 10 minutes before she put the book down and vowed to return it to the library the next day. Her reasoning? She couldn’t believe there was a talking cat. But I was quite the  inquisitive young girl and decided to sneak up past my bedtime, find the book and continue reading. From that moment on I became one of the world’s biggest Potterheads and lover of all things harry potter.

I have read all the books (the last 3 the day they came out) multiple times, know just about every line to every movie (and tweet them incessantly as they are said), have been to Harry Potter World at Universal Studios, been to the traveling exposition when it was in NYC, seen both of Daniel Radcliffe’s Broadway plays, have a Pottermore Account, did the Harry Potter Puppet Pals “Mysterious Ticking noise” as my senior year soccer camp skit, sung “Harry Potter in 99 Seconds” for my high school’s talent show (but unfortunately was beat out for third place by a DJ), purchased multiple wands (my favorite is Ginny’s), and even got a harry potter tattoo. I mean, I really love Harry Potter.

Over the years I have gotten a lot of shit for this passion of mine. Many of my peers in high school made fun of me for dressing up in a cloak and glasses for the premieres of the movies and knowing every line to all the movies. I was often the only one that noticed the differences between the books and the movies and was made fun of for highlighting them. I remember one time senior year, after I had done the talent show, when a girl in the grade younger than me looked at me and said “Don’t you have anything better to do with your time?”. And you know what I told her? I said “Honestly I don’t”.

There is nothing better than Harry Potter. Harry Potter is more than a silly series about something that could never happen. It is an escape for everyone who needs one. I grew up with these stories. As Harry aged so did I, and as the stories began to get darker and darker my understanding of myself became richer and fuller. Harry wasn’t just a character in a book, as many other Potterheads will understand. He was a role model. He was a guide. He was the perfect example of everything a young adult should want to be. He gave up his life for his friends and more importantly the world and he always believed that those he loved and lost were with him in spirit. He went through bullying, abuse and torture and still was able to do good. He should be an inspiration to us all, really. The book wasn’t even a book. It was something more than that. It was a universe that we all wanted to exist. It was home.

The most shit I get for liking Harry Potter is when someone sees my tattoo. It is a Deathly Hallows tattoo and it rests on the center of my chest just between my breasts [I’ll include a pic at the end of this post]. It’s not a very large tattoo, but it represents the most important part of who I am. For those of you muggles that are not familiar with the story of the Deathly Hallows and the Three Brothers, a wizarding fairy tale, I will quickly fill you in (if you know it feel free to skip):

Basically there were three wizarding brothers who came to a very full and dangerous river that they knew they could not cross safely. So, being wizards, they took out their wands and crafted a bridge and basically cheated death because travelers would normally drown in the river. So once they made it across death appeared and pretended to praise the three brothers for tricking him and offered them each a gift of whatever they wanted, knowing their desires would probably put them in an early grave. The eldest brother asked for the most powerful wand and so death gave him the elder wand. The second brother asked for a way to have his late fiance returned to him from the grave so death gave him a Resurrection stone. The third brother, who was much more humble than the rest, simply asked for a way to be hidden from death until he was ready. Death reluctantly gave him his own cloak of invisibility. As their lives go on, the three gifts, or the Deathly Hallows, impact their lives very greatly. The first brother kills a powerful wizard he once had a quarrel with but by doing this gives away the power of his wand. He is killed in his sleep that night by someone who steals the wand. The second brother gets his fiance back but she does not belong in this world and so he kills himself. Death has the two brothers quickly but for a long time he cannot find the third. The third brother gets married, has a child and passes the cloak along to him when he is ready. He meets death as an old friend and the story is over.

The story of the Deathly Hallows has a moral message that many people miss when reading and especially while watching Harry Potter. If you want power and abilities beyond human comprehension, then you will be consumed by them. Like Lord Voldemort or even Dumbledore who’s sister died as a result for his quest for power. But, if you are humble and want peace, like Harry, you will be happy and live a fulfilling life. I got this tattoo for that reason as well as the fact that I want to be like Harry. I have always lived in a sacrificial way towards my friends. I would do anything for them, even die for them as Harry did.

Harry Potter isn’t just a story about wizards and dragons, it’s a story about life. And it’s a mold that I want my life to fit in. My tattoo is a reminder of this manner in which I want to live in case I ever get caught up in something that is not me or behave like a Slytherin. Harry Potter will forever be my inspiration and my home. As Albus Dumbledore says: “Happiness can be found even in the darkest of times if one only remembers to turn on the light”

 

imageMy tattoo 🙂

 

On normalcy

When you’re a kid you are the most you you’ll ever be. You dress how you want, play with who you want, watch what TV show you want, eat what you want. You get to do the things that you most want to do. You get to pursue the passions that are most appealing to you. And yet somehow, in the process of growing up, you move away from those things that you enjoy doing so much. Yes, I know that as we grow we take on more responsibilities like school work, chores, relationship maintenance… and therefore there is less time to do what we want. Yet responsibility isn’t the tide that’s carrying you away.

Stereotypes are something that we like to pretend don’t exist anymore. The extreme representations of jocks, preps, weirdos, nerds and trouble makers that we saw in the Breakfast Club seem comical to us now. I went to high school with kids who deny there were stereotypes at all. Maybe it’s because they have all been swept away from what they like and who like love and what they are and mixed together into one, large “normal”.

Normalcy is important to some people. Wearing the same clothes as everyone else is seen as normal. Buying and listening to the same music as everyone else is normal. Starving yourself or taking supplements to be the same size as everyone is normal. Hanging out with all the other “normals” is normal.

Unfortunately rarely a person seems to notice that “normal” is not normal.

If we were all meant to be the same, we would all have the exact same DNA. We would have the same musical, entertainment, and social preferences. And if you’ve made it this far in your life without realizing the impossibility of that “normal” than I feel very sorry about you.

Being yourself can be one of the hardest yet most rewarding things you will ever do in your life. Getting back to that childlike ability to enjoy the things you truly enjoy, without caring what anyone else thinks, is a true beauty in life. It comes with costs. You may be branded weird. You may have less friends. But you are rewarded with a truth that many others can’t find.

When I was in high school I had a hard time accepting this truth .I wanted to be liked by the other girls, lusted after by the boys, invited to all the big parties. But as a grew from a freshman to a senior I realized those wants were all wrong, for me at least. I realized that watching the Harry Potter movies so many times that I memorized all the words was more fun to me than watching any “normal” movie. I understood that hanging out with my best friend, even though she was branded weird for liking different people, bands and fashions was more important than a thousand fake friends.I learned that playing in the band was more fulfilling than partying all the time.

In this day and age, being yourself is a sacrifice. While I hope that one day it becomes normal, it still isn’t. But I urge you to find the things you love and stick with them. Don’t take the easy road and follow everyone else. Fight the current til you make it ashore. Because if you do, you’ll realize the things you sacrificed weren’t sacrifices at all but small victories in the battle for you.

Has anyone ever really wanted to be referred to as normal?

I hope not.